Yazının başlığını damat adayını araştırmadan kızını evlendiren ana babalar diye attık fakat
öyle bir zaman yaşıyoruz ki ana babanın hükmü kalmadı.
Modern çağ denilen zamanda yaşıyoruz yavrularımız farkında olmadan nefslerinin emri altına
girdiler ben kendi eşimi kendim seçerim bana karışamazsınız diyor internetten bulduğu evveliyatını
bilmediği kişiyle buluşuyor anne babanın araştırmasına fırsat kalmadan evleniyor sonrası felaket.
Adam sadist adamın içi dışı fesat merhamet sıfır şeytanın kontrolünde bir adam çocuklar dünyaya geldi
hadi geri dön bakalım birde tembel işe gitmiyorsa eşini çalıştırıp yan gelip yatıyorsa gel katlan bakalım.
Biz şöyle düşünüyoruz anasına bak kızını al, babasına bak oğlunu al fakat dediğimiz gibi kızlarımız oğullarımız ana babaya bu fırsatı vermiyorlar hatta onların dediğini kabul etmezsek evi terk diyorlar.
Gençliğin gidişi iyi görünmüyor pek azı hariç seyrettikleri yalancı dizilerin lüksüne aldanarak
böyle bir hayatın hayaline kapılıyor anne ve babanın hiç bir nasihatini dinlemiyor nefsini dinliyor.
Ondan sonra da çocuğu kucağında baba ocağına dönüyor fakat çile bitmiyor sadist kocası bu ayrılığı gururuna yediremiyor başlıyor baskıya karısına dünyayı zehir ediyor.
Yakınlarımdan birinin kızının bir gence aşık olduğunu duyduk.
Bize dediler ki bu genç şu adreste çalışıyor onu sorduğumuz kişilerden aldığımız cevap aklı uçuk kumar oynuyor alkol alıyor dediler biz de hayırlı görünmüyor dedik.
onlar da kızlarına duyurdular fakat kız hiç birini dinlemedi o gençle evlendi.
Sonuç ne oldu dersiniz kocası kumara daldı bu yetmedi başka bir kadınla ilişki kurdu kız da bebeğini alıp ailesinin yanına döndü neticede mahkeme kararı ile ayrıldılar .
Ey evlilik yaşı gelen gençler kızlarımız hem kendinizi hem ailenizi perişan etmemek için eş seçimini ailenize
bırakın onların tecrübelerinden yararlanın onların rızasını almakla da ALLAH'ın rızasına kavuşursunuz.
Bu sebeple de evliliğiniz hayırlı olur huzurlu hayat sürersiniz. Bu arada evlendiği eşini esiri gibi görüp baskı altına alan erkeklere de deriz ki adaletli olun size gelen eşinizin size ALLAH'ın bir emaneti olduğunu unutmayın ona yaptığınız her zulmün karşılığını zulümle vereceksiniz ama bu dünyada ama ahirette..
Hazreti ALLAH (c.c) Ayeti kerimesinde:
"Kadınlarınızla iyi geçinin eğer onlardan hoşlanmazsanız oladabilir ki hoşunuza gitmeyen bir şeye ALLAH bir çok hayırlar kormuş olabilir." (Nisa-19)
Şöyle bir yorum getirebiliriz, fazla güzelliği yoktur fakat hayırlı ve bereketlidir eşini zengin eder.
biz böyle eşlere şahit olduk.
Resulullah (s.a.v) Efendimiz ise hadisi şeriflerinde:
"Kadınların haklarına riayet ediniz, bu hususta ALLAH'tan korkunuz.
Zira siz onları ALLAH'tan emanet olarak almıştınız." (Ebu Davud)
Hazreti ALLAH (c.c) evlenecek yavrularımızı hayırlı eşlerle buluştursun inşaALLAH Amin.
Kalpteniman Yusuf Kutan
We titled the article "Parents who marry off their daughters without researching the prospective groom", but
we are living in such a time that parents have no power anymore.
We are living in a time called the modern age, our children are under the command of their own souls without realizing it, they
say "I choose my own spouse, you can't interfere with me",
they meet the person they found on the internet, whose history they don't know, they get married before their parents have a chance to investigate, and what follows is disaster.
The man is a sadist, evil inside and out, has zero mercy, a man under the control of the devil, children were born,
come on, come back and see, if he is lazy, doesn't go to work, makes his wife work and sleeps around, come and bear it.
We think like this: Look at the mother and take your daughter, look at the father and take your son, but as we said, our daughters and sons do not give this opportunity to their parents and even tell them to leave the house if we do not accept what they say.
The course of youth does not look good, except for a few, who are deceived by the luxury of the fake TV series they watch and
get carried away by the dream of such a life, they do not listen to any advice of their parents, they listen to their own desires.
After that, she returns to her father's house with her child in her arms, but the ordeal does not end; her sadistic husband cannot tolerate this separation and begins to oppress his wife, making the world miserable for her.
We heard that the daughter of one of my relatives fell in love with a young man.
They told us that this young man works at this address. The answer we got from the people we asked about him was that he is crazy, gambles and drinks alcohol. We said that he does not look good.
They also told their daughters, but the girl did not listen to anyone and married that young man.
What do you think was the outcome? Her husband got into gambling, that wasn't enough, he had a relationship with another woman, and the girl took her baby and returned to her family. As a result, they separated by court order.
Hey young girls of marriageable age, in order not to make yourself and your family miserable,
leave the choice of spouse to your family, benefit from their experience, and by getting their consent, you will attain the consent of Allah.
For this reason, your marriage will be beneficial and you will live a peaceful life. By the way, we say to men who oppress their spouses by seeing them as their slaves: Be fair, remember that your spouse who comes to you is a trust of Allah to you, you will repay him with oppression for every oppression you do to him, but in this world and in the afterlife.. In the verse of Hazrat Allah (cc)
:
"Get along well with your women. If you don't like them, it may be that God has provided many blessings for something you don't like." (Nisa-19)
We can interpret this as follows; she does not have much beauty, but she is auspicious and fruitful and makes her husband rich.
We have witnessed such spouses.
Our Prophet (pbuh) said in his hadith:
"Respect the rights of women, fear Allah in this regard.
Because you received them as a trust from Allah." (Abu Davud) May Allah (swt) bring together our soon-to-be-married children with good spouses, Amen. Kalpteniman Yusuf Kutan
we are living in such a time that parents have no power anymore.
We are living in a time called the modern age, our children are under the command of their own souls without realizing it, they
say "I choose my own spouse, you can't interfere with me",
they meet the person they found on the internet, whose history they don't know, they get married before their parents have a chance to investigate, and what follows is disaster.
The man is a sadist, evil inside and out, has zero mercy, a man under the control of the devil, children were born,
come on, come back and see, if he is lazy, doesn't go to work, makes his wife work and sleeps around, come and bear it.
We think like this: Look at the mother and take your daughter, look at the father and take your son, but as we said, our daughters and sons do not give this opportunity to their parents and even tell them to leave the house if we do not accept what they say.
The course of youth does not look good, except for a few, who are deceived by the luxury of the fake TV series they watch and
get carried away by the dream of such a life, they do not listen to any advice of their parents, they listen to their own desires.
After that, she returns to her father's house with her child in her arms, but the ordeal does not end; her sadistic husband cannot tolerate this separation and begins to oppress his wife, making the world miserable for her.
We heard that the daughter of one of my relatives fell in love with a young man.
They told us that this young man works at this address. The answer we got from the people we asked about him was that he is crazy, gambles and drinks alcohol. We said that he does not look good.
They also told their daughters, but the girl did not listen to anyone and married that young man.
What do you think was the outcome? Her husband got into gambling, that wasn't enough, he had a relationship with another woman, and the girl took her baby and returned to her family. As a result, they separated by court order.
Hey young girls of marriageable age, in order not to make yourself and your family miserable,
leave the choice of spouse to your family, benefit from their experience, and by getting their consent, you will attain the consent of Allah.
For this reason, your marriage will be beneficial and you will live a peaceful life. By the way, we say to men who oppress their spouses by seeing them as their slaves: Be fair, remember that your spouse who comes to you is a trust of Allah to you, you will repay him with oppression for every oppression you do to him, but in this world and in the afterlife.. In the verse of Hazrat Allah (cc)
:
"Get along well with your women. If you don't like them, it may be that God has provided many blessings for something you don't like." (Nisa-19)
We can interpret this as follows; she does not have much beauty, but she is auspicious and fruitful and makes her husband rich.
We have witnessed such spouses.
Our Prophet (pbuh) said in his hadith:
"Respect the rights of women, fear Allah in this regard.
Because you received them as a trust from Allah." (Abu Davud) May Allah (swt) bring together our soon-to-be-married children with good spouses, Amen. Kalpteniman Yusuf Kutan